No Woman No Cry
 by Rita Marley with Hettie Jones
May/June 2004
PROLOGUE
People ask what it's like when I'm somewhere and suddenly Bob's voice comes on the radio. But the thing
about Bob is so deep, it is as if he's always with me, there's always something to remind me. So I don't wait for his voice.
And he did promise me, before he
finally closed his eyes, that he'd be here. It was May 11, 1981, and
the doctors said he was dying of cancer and that there was no hope. But
Bob was hanging on, he wouldn't let go.
I had put his head in my arm, and I was
singing "God Will Take Care of You." But then I started to cry and
said, "Bob, please, don't leave me."
And he looked up and said, "Leave you,
go where? What are you crying for? Forget crying, Rita! Just keep
singing. Sing! Sing!"
So I kept singing, and then I realized,
wow, that's exactly what the song was saying: "I will never leave you,
wherever you are I will be . . ."
So if I hear his voice now, it's only
confirming that he's always around, everywhere. Because you do really
hear his voice wherever you go. All over the world.
And one interesting thing about it, to
me, is that most people only hear him. But I hear more, because
I'm on almost all of the songs. So I also hear my voice, I also hear me.
CHAPTER TWO
Who Feels It, Knows It
Studio One had probably been a home
before Coxsone bought it. He had taken down walls, but it was easy to
imagine where the bedroom used to be and the kitchen and the hall. So
you felt like you were at home there, because it was less like a
business and more like a family affair. When anything happened,
everybody got excited -- the musicians, the singers, the man outside.
And the hype was, "We do a hit tune today." "We" meaning it was
everybody's hit tune. We would be there for days, nights, days, but
nobody complained -- it was just fun to wake up and say, "Oooh,
I have studio today!"
Coxsone had recorded some of the most
successful groups in Jamaica, including the famous "Skatalites," one of
the earliest ska bands. (The word "ska" comes from a certain sound made
by the electric guitar.) Marcia Griffiths, who later sang with me as
one of the I-Three, says that Studio One was Jamaica's Motown, "where
all the great stars grew . . . like a university you graduate." A lot
of times different people would be working at once; songs were being
written in every corner. You couldn't help but learn if you kept your
ears open. Coxsone had a guitar that he loaned to those who were too
poor to buy one. Bob had that guitar most of the time.
The backup group we eventually formed
still consisted of Dream, myself, and Marlene, who would leave school
in the evenings to come to Trench Town and rehearse, and whose parents
thought this was the worst ambition. To leave high school to go to
Trench Town, to be with those kinds of people -- the tough guys, the
killers, the thieves!
Dream was my main tootsie, my favorite
cousin, my little postman, my little errand runner. As a baby, he had
the most beautiful big eyes you've ever seen, and always looked as if
he was dreaming -- you know that sexy dreamy look? So from an early age
Constantine Anthony Walker was known as "Dream." He was only about
thirteen, the baby amongst us, when we met the Wailers. They, being the
Misters of Black Progress, who taught us that Black Is Beautiful and
how wise it is to know yourself, decided that Dream was so much their
little "buds" (buddy) that they had to change his nickname. Only old
men have dreams, they insisted, but young men have visions.
And so Dream became Vision. A much more youthful flavor!
We sang behind the Wailers and
sometimes behind other singers or groups who were recording. Coxsone
and some others on the scene suggested we name ourselves something like
the Marvelettes, an American group we'd heard, and so we became the
"Soulettes." Our first big hit, with Delroy Wilson also singing
background, was "I Love You, Baby." This was a big, big thrill for us.
We were unknown, we weren't out there in the show business arena, and
we were all still teenagers, starry-eyed amateurs.
It was also Coxsone's suggestion that
Bob train and rehearse us, and I guess by then he must have seen
something happening between Bob and me.
He was pretty handsome, I thought --
Robert Nesta Marley, Robbie to all of us then. Jamaicans would call him
brown-skinned and Americans might say light-skinned. His father,
Captain Norval Sinclair Marley, was an older white man, a native
Jamaican who had retired from the British Army. Bob had much of his
father's imprint; he was very half-black, half-white, with a high,
round forehead, prominent cheekbones, and a long nose. His mother,
Cedella "Ciddy" Malcolm, was seventeen when she met Norval. He was more
than twice her age, and was then the superintendent for British-owned
lands in the rural parish of St. Ann, where Ciddy lived. By the time
she was nineteen, she'd been seduced by, married to, and then abandoned
by Norval. The one time he saw his father, Bob used to say, the old man
offered him a "Willy" penny (an old copper coin, thought of as a
collector's item). Bob claimed he never saw Norval again
But like me, Bob had an extended family
to raise him, at least for a while. His grandfather, Omeriah Malcolm,
was a myalman, or healer, as well as a successful businessman
respected in his community of Nine Miles. So it didn't surprise me that
Bob, as the world would come to know, was very black conscious -- his
black consciousness covered his light skin. You see him, you hear him,
and he's a black man. And he was very disciplined, self-disciplined.
Very real.
At fourteen he had come from St. Ann to
Kingston with his mother, to live with her and a man named Thaddius
(Taddy) Livingston, who had offered her work in his bar. Ciddy had a
daughter, Pearl, with Taddy, but then found out he was already married
and had other women besides. Looking for a better life, she took Pearl,
who was still a baby, and migrated to Wilmington, Delaware, where she
had some family and friends. Bob was left in Taddy's care, but more
like on his own. He told me that his mother's plan had been to send for
him in three months, as soon as she was settled and could secure the
necessary papers. But the papers weren't easy to get. The three months
had become more than three years.
When we met, Bob was living in an
uneasy situation with Taddy Livingston, Taddy's common-law wife, and
his son Neville Livingston, called Bunny, the member of the Wailers
eventually known as Bunny Wailer. With his mother away, Bob lacked the
kind of support and defense I got from Aunty. (One of his early songs
is titled "Where Is My Mother.") Taddy's woman resented him, as the son
of a woman who had had an affair with her man. One day Bob told me how
fed up he was with both Taddy and this "stepmother," who wanted him to
be her maid because he wasn't bringing any money to the house. For a
while he had simply become an errand boy, then worked as a trainee in a
welding shop, before making his first singles, "Judge Not" and then
"One Cup of Coffee," on the Beverley's label. That Bob was getting some
attention didn't mean he was being paid very much. No one had money
then.
At first, and maybe always, I cared for
Robbie Marley from a sisterly point of view. I was that sort of person,
and still am -- the responsible kind. I saw him and I said, "poor
thing." It wasn't "I love him," but "poor thing." My heart went out to
him. I kept thinking, oh, what a
nice boy. So nice that I didn't want to let him know I had a baby
-- in those days, for a teenager to be unmarried and have a baby seemed
so shameful. During this time I spent many hours at Studio One,
rehearsing and recording, and always managed to conceal that fact. But
one day, right in the middle of recording, my breasts started to leak,
and Bob noticed. He said, a little surprised, "What's that? You have a
baby?" It was not said unkindly.
Although I was terribly embarrassed, I
couldn't deny the evidence, so I just nodded.
And he said, "I could tell. Why you
didn't let us know? Why you didn't ask to go home early? Is it a boy or
girl?"
"Well, it's a girl," I said.
"Where is she? What is her name? Where
is her father? Can I see her?"
All these questions came fast, with
great concern. I stood there, looking at him, unable to answer right
away. I found that concern to be very mature for a young man still in
his teens -- like caring and at the same time maybe seeing me through a
different eye. His interest in my baby made me feel proud instead of
ashamed. That to me was a good sign, but so unexpected. Finally he
said, "Go home and feed your baby and I'll see you later."
And this is where my love came in. I
looked at him and thought, uh-oh, such a nice guy. And I got
weak in the knees. Oh my God, I thought, oh my God.
That evening, he did come by. Sharon
was about five months old then. When I brought her out, he loved her.
And she loved him. When she learned to talk a little she couldn't say
"Robbie," so she called him "Bahu."
From that day on, when you'd see Bob,
I'd be his tail. He'd have me by the hand, walking me, come on, Rita.
When all this first started, Sharon's father and I were still
corresponding. Bob didn't like that and made his position clear. In
fact, he insisted that I end the relationship -- why was I having
anything to do with a man who wouldn't help me or the baby? One day he
caught Dream with a letter to be mailed to Sharon's father and took it
away from him! (That ended the correspondence.)
I learned firsthand about his
generosity then, this Robbie, the kind of man he was, because whenever
he had a little money he'd come by the house with some Cow & Gate
baby food and a drink for Aunty. And even she began to give in to his
nice ways and manners. "Well," she said, "it looks like something is
going on here."
And so, though I didn't expect this, I
became
his. As in okay now, guys, this is my girl. Even Peter Tosh
respected that and learned not to touch, because Peter was very touchy,
he would see you and ohh -- hug you up and try to squeeze you.
But Bob said, no no no . . . this is my
girl.
About the Book
No Woman No Cry: My Life with Bob Marley
by Rita Marley
For the first time ever, a revealing memoir from
the woman who knew Bob Marley best -- his wife, Rita.
Rita Marley grew up in Trench Town, a slum in Kingston, Jamaica, and
was raised by her beloved Aunty. Music ran in their family, and even as
a child Rita possessed a talent for singing that was remarked upon.
Nevertheless, by the time she was eighteen, she had become an unwed
mother, and it seemed as if her musical career was going nowhere. It
was then that Rita met Bob Marley, literally on the road in front of
her house. Later, after being reintroduced at a local recording studio,
they became close friends and fell in love. Soon, Rita was singing
backup for the Wailers, Bob's reggae group. When he was twenty-one and
she nineteen, they married.
The rest is history: Bob and the Wailers set all of Jamaica, and
eventually the entire world, on fire with their incredible style of
reggae music. But while Bob's star rose and he traveled the world to
promote his art, Rita stayed at home trying to feed their growing
family. From peddling Bob's records on the back of her bicycle to
living in a shack without electricity and washing his one pair of
underwear every night, Rita was the devoted wife. Eventually her
burning desire to be in the music world was satisfied as well, and she
was recognized for her incredible talents as the lead singer with the
I-Three.
Emotionally, though, life was still rough for Rita. Bob conducted
liaisons with other women publicly. At his manager's urging, he allowed
the press to report that he was single, to preserve his "image." Yet
throughout it all, Rita managed to preserve her self-respect, even
helping some of Bob's girlfriends to raise their children by him. She
also brought up her own children and embarked on an international
career as a soloist. Bob and Rita never separated or divorced, and when
he became ill with cancer, she did not leave his side until his passing
in 1981.
In the years since then, Rita Marley has become a force in her own
right. She took on a new role as manager of her children's singing
group, the Melody Makers, which includes her son Ziggy Marley. She
travels the world as the Bob Marley Foundation's spokesperson, as a
member of the I-Three, and as a solo performer.
Written with author Hettie Jones, No Woman No Cry is a
no-holds-barred account of the life of an incredible woman, married to
one of the most well-known and beloved musicians of all time.
Reviews
"Tart, self-assured, and lasting." --Kirkus Reviews ". . . this book makes an important contribution to our understanding of Marley and Jamaican music in general." --Publishers Weekly "Rita is a strong woman whose angle on [Bob Marley] is fresh and authoritative." --Booklist "Above all, fans will find a simple story of a woman who married a simple man, watched him rise to fame, and bravely endured many tribulations at his side." --Library Journal
About the Authors
Rita Marley performs with the reggae group the I-Three and helps run the Bob Marley Foundation. Rita was married to Bob Marley in 1966 when she was nineteen and he was twenty-one, and she remained his wife until his death in 1981. The mother of Bob's children, she performs worldwide. She makes her home in Ghana, West Africa.
Hettie Jones is a poet and prose writer, author of numerous books, including How I Became Hettie Jones, a memoir of the Beats and of her former marriage to LeRoi Jones (now Amiri Baraka). She lives in New York City, where she teaches writing at New School University and the 92nd Street Y Poetry Center.
For more information, please visit www.writtenvoices.com
Copyright © 2004 Rita Marley Productions, Inc., reprinted by permission. All rights reserved.
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