{"id":5691,"date":"2005-08-16T12:00:26","date_gmt":"2005-08-16T12:00:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/multiracial.com\/?p=5691"},"modified":"2016-12-22T14:45:07","modified_gmt":"2016-12-22T14:45:07","slug":"hes-white-shes-black-a-problem","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/multiracial.com\/index.php\/2005\/08\/16\/hes-white-shes-black-a-problem\/","title":{"rendered":"He\u2019s white, she\u2019s black: A problem?"},"content":{"rendered":"

He\u2019s white, she\u2019s black: A problem?<\/strong><\/p>\n

The Florida Times-Union<\/strong><\/p>\n

by Phillip Milano
\nOriginally created Tuesday, August 16, 2005<\/strong><\/p>\n

Originally published here:\u00a0http:\/\/jacksonville.com\/tu-online\/stories\/081605\/enm_19506518.shtml<\/a><\/p>\n

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I\u2019ve noted curious reactions to white male\/black female relationships. What are opinions about this?<\/span><\/p>\n

K.N., 26, black female, Washington<\/span><\/p>\n

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My husband-to-be is white. In public we get looks of surprise or dismay from white women or black men. Yet it\u2019s fine for a black man to date a white woman. Mind-boggling.<\/span><\/p>\n

DeeDee, black, Louisville, Ky.<\/span><\/p>\n

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I do not understand any black person getting involved with a white person romantically . . . especially as it pertains to black men, many of whom lost their lives messing with a white woman.<\/span><\/p>\n

R.O., 42, black female, Laurelton, N.Y.<\/span><\/p>\n

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If you are a white woman and see a white man you are attracted to hooked up with a black woman, you will spark a reaction, because the white woman will feel the white guy has low standards. Keep in mind \u2026 if they are not good-looking, trust me, [the white woman] would pay it little mind.<\/span><\/p>\n

Desmond, black, Alexandria, Va.<\/span><\/p>\n

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In France, I dated a woman of African descent. Most negative vibes came from white people. When she came to the United States with me, the rude comments came above all from African-American males. She went back with a negative opinion of African-Americans, because many had judged her negatively based on cultural prejudices.<\/span><\/p>\n

K.R., 25, white, Chicago<\/span><\/p>\n

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Expert says<\/span><\/p>\n

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Nearly 80 percent of Americans now think interracial dating is OK, up from 50 percent in the late \u201980s, according to a Pew Research Center survey. And interracial unions now make up 3 percent of U.S. marriages, double the rate of 1980, U.S. Census figures show.<\/span><\/p>\n

Black\/white marriages have risen with that tide, but who\u2019s marrying whom hasn\u2019t changed: only three in 10 black\/white unions are white husband\/black wife, the same as 25 years ago. It\u2019s widely held that the disparity is even greater in black\/white dating.<\/span><\/p>\n

Theories on this \u2014 street and academic \u2014 can be grouped bluntly like so: A) white women are seen as trophies by black men, who were denied access for, well, half a thousand years; B) white men devalue black women as a lingering effect of the masterslave relationship; and C) black men think some black women have \u201ctoo much attitude.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

Regarding white man\/black woman pairings, James Landrith, publisher of The Multiracial Activist Web site, said scornful reaction most often comes from \u201colder white males in the South and younger black males in the North.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

The first group \u201chas trouble coming to grips with the fact the world has moved on,\u201d said Landrith, who is white and American Indian and married to a black woman. The latter group often thinks \u201cWhat\u2019s he got that I don\u2019t have, and why am I not good enough?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

\u201cBut usually two people are together because of similar interests. Or a black woman works in an area surrounded by white males \u2026 she might think, \u2018Why can\u2019t<\/em> I go out with a guy from my office?\u2019 As more people see it, it\u2019s more accepted.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

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Phillip Milano, author of I Can\u2019t Believe You Asked That!<\/em> (Perigee), moderates cross-cultural dialogue at Y? The National Forum on People\u2019s Differences. Visit www.yforum.com to submit questions and answers, or mail to Phillip Milano, c\/o The Florida Times-Union, P.O. Box 1949, Jacksonville, FL 32231. Include contact information.<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a9 Copyright<\/a> The Florida Times-Union. All rights reserved.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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